A Reminder of Your M*therf*cking Greatness
No, I'm not kidding. This post is dedicated to you.
There’s a heat wave rolling through Oregon right now, and I think the best way to cool down is to have a celebration of all the ways that you are awesome. All of the ways that you are kicking ass and taking names. What do you mean “all the ways that I am awesome? You don’t even know me.”
Oh, don’t I? Strap in, friends. Things are about to get wild.
1 — You are delusional in all the right ways
If you want to achieve something great, you better start getting delusional. Girlie, this is where you shine! Yes, of course, sometimes you talk shit to yourself. But deep down, you do know that you are a sexy, courageous beast ready to pounce when you need to. You’ve battled toxic parents, terrible workplaces, unsupportive friends, random internet haters, stupid co-workers, and your own self-critic — and in spite of all that — you rose from the ashes like a phoenix again and again.
You thought you hit rock bottom and you still got up. Because you never really gave up on yourself. You had a vision bigger than you and your little life. You wanted a big life! And you went for it.
People told you, there’s no way you can get into that school. You got in, bitches. People told you, oh, you want to work there? It’s a pretty prestigious firm. You got the offer. People told you that no one ever got promoted that fast. And there you go. You kept betting on yourself and it may not feel like it — but one day, some little shift will happen, and everything will take off.
2 — You show up
You are on time for meetings because you don’t want to keep people waiting. You mention a great restaurant recommendation to a friend and then you actually text it to them later. You’re dependable. You show up for others and therefore you show up for yourself. If you say you’re going to do something, you do it.
You set big goals, and then you break down those goals into little goals, and then you achieve each one of those. It’s like watching dominos fall. You have integrity. You have grit. You get tired like all of us, but you take care of yourself and you take care of those around you. You’re a stand up person. You’re not perfect. You mess up and you miss things like we all do. But you wipe off the sweat and get up and just try again. You don’t beat yourself up too hard. You just keep going.
3 — You are a hype person for your friends
When you show your friends loyalty, care, and love — you are a force of nature. You are unwavering in your belief if your friends. You will stay up late counseling them. You will think about what they like, and you will send them presents or notes or texts whenever you think about them. Most importantly, you know how to set healthy boundaries with your friendships. When you have to be honest, and you know they might not like it, you are still honest. You set clear boundaries and then you hold them with love.
People are lucky to have you as a friend. They should be so overjoyed to have you in their life. Are you kidding?! Do you even know how funny and weird and hilarious you are? Your friends often whisper things to you like, “omg I would never tell anyone this, but…” and then proceed to tell you their darkest, grossest fears and secrets. You don’t compete with your friends because you believe there is enough for everyone. You believe in abundance mindset. You are a perpetual cheerleader, hyping your friends up and liking their posts on social media and sending them little words of encouragement. And all of this matters because we are all so fragile, all so lonely, that your little words of affirmation literally lift up every single person in your life. I just need you to know that!
4 — You believe in love and fight for it
You wear your heart on your sleeve, and just like your ride or die friends, you love openly and generously. You are honest and vulnerable, and if you like someone romantically you will tell them. If it’s not a fit, you’ll tell them. You are loyal and cautious and loving and warm. You don’t believe in double standards. You are what you get. You don’t believe in a flash in the pan. You don’t believe in empty flirting. You are in it for the long haul, and want a true partner in life.
And you will find that partner! Because you are deserving of all the love in the world. And if you haven’t found that partner yet, it’s just a matter of time. And if you have, you are going to take care of it, nurturing it and making it a priority, and listening, and nodding and showing interest even when you don’t really have interest. But because you like the person, you do actually have a bit of interest in their random hobbies and football or whatever they like.
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Thank you for reading! What is this article! I don’t know! I just thought of some of my favorite people in the world and wrote as if I was talking to them. I hope you all stay cool (it’s literally 104 in Oregon, wtf) — and have a wonderful week.
xoxo
Mandy aka Career Coach Mandy
PS. Get the “Should I Quit” journal, I will be promoting this until the day I die, lol. We’ve sold 2,000 copies!!!! What the hell! Go get one!
I am working through your Should I Quit journal and I’m so happy I found your Substack! This post made me smile and tear up at the same time ❤️ I am also in Oregon…hoping for cooler days ahead!